Biologically men and women are to become complementary pairs to form the basic unit of mankind, the family. They are naturally made for different functions to complete the human functions. They are not made for doing the same functions!
Thus both husband and wife cannot be both heads of the same family at the same time. Life becomes smooth and natural when men and women go according to their natural designs.
A good leader or boss knows the art of distributing his or her powers and responsibilities to each and every individual down below in the team commensurate with their individual capacities to make use of those delegation effectively.
When the boss does delegation of authority and responsibility improperly, the organization fails to perform adding to the woes of the boss.
In the family too, such delegation of work and responsibilities is to be implemented with much care. If done well, the family too would become a smooth running mini organization.
When every one is enabled to perform according to their inherent capacities we get complimentary families and organizations that run well without causing problems to others.
At least, things would be better and bosses may not be required to devote more time than their subordinates to make their organizations perform.
The gender of the boss would not make any difference too!